Maybe Matilda: Get ready for more random crap.

Monday, October 31, 2011

Get ready for more random crap.

I have to admit, I'm always shocked by the response I get to what I lovingly call my "random crap" posts. Like this one, where I confessed to not quite fitting in with the craft/blog world, and this one, where I got a smidgen fed up with reading about bloggers' fake-perfect lives. I think those are the only two bare-my-soul posts I've written here so far, and each time, I've thought as I was typing, "This is it. This is the post that will get a thousand comments telling me how much I suck, and that I'm doing everything wrong, and that I should get off the internet and hide my face in shame." And maybe it's just because I don't allow anonymous comments (take that, haters!), but the haters haven't emerged yet. Quite the opposite, in fact--it turns out we all have an awful lot in common.

It seems like we're all pretty dang tired of trying to make our lives look perfect online. We're all tired of feeling craptastic when we read about others' fabulous lives. We all think we're the only ones who aren't keeping up and doing everything right. We're all a bit afraid to admit that we don't have it all together, but we all feel so relieved to hear that nobody else really has it all together, either.

It's interesting, isn't it? That we're all sitting behind our computers, feeling lonely and left out, when even the people who give us the impression that everything is amazing and perfect all the time (whether they mean to come across that way or not) are sitting behind their computers feeling the exact same way. Makes me wonder . . . what are we all pretending for? Why aren't we all just being really honest, all the time, if that's what makes us feel happy and satisfied and normal?

I've been very cautious about writing personal (or, "random crap") posts here--much as I hate to admit it, I often just skim blog posts for interesting pictures without actually reading them (for shame!). So I figure, that's probably what everyone else does, too, and no one will want to read my kooky blather. But maybe I don't need to be shy anymore--if we can still be friends after you've listened to me melt down about my imperfect life, what more damage can I do, really? Might as well just let it all out from now on. You're big kids, I'm sure you can handle this (pointing to self). Although it is kind of a lot to handle.
Now that I know how similar we are and how nice you'll be when I act like a crazy person, I just might get around to writing some more random crap. 

Thank you for your kind comments on my little blog rant last week--it really meant so much to me to know that I'm not alone in feeling like an oddball sometimes. And that I'm not alone in occasionally feeding Forrest candy for dinner . . . there were like 10 people who commented that they do the same. Honestly, people are only going to coo over his fat rolls for a limited time in life--I'm going to make sure he takes full advantage of this golden life stage. I'd be eating Red Vines for dinner a lot more often if I thought people might tickle my belly in the grocery store and sing, "Who's da chubbiest?! Who is it?!" In a nice way, of course.

24 comments :

  1. i've stopped reading a few blogs for the same reason, and i'm single... :D

    i know it's bad if i start to gag.

    love your blog!

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  2. What a great picture of you and your little one. There were too many words so I just skimmed it to look at the picture. (Although by saying that I made it pretty obvious that I read the post. Shucks.)

    I'm going to start dropping in on my friends unannounced to see how they *really* live. I'll bet they have laundry on their couches and dishes in their sinks, too. Their kids are probably running around naked just like mine. And on that note, I'd better be going.

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  3. I LOVE your ramdom crap!! I am shy like you. Maybe if I read enough of it on other blogs I might feel ok putting more of it on mine. So keep it coming!

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  4. I really appreciate the real life posts :)

    I let my little man run around in jammies (ok yeah me too) all day and we sometimes have snacks for dinner while daddy is on nightshift ;)

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  5. Hi Rachel,

    you made a comment about how you thought no one really cared about your personal life, and maybe I'm weird but I love reading about bloggers personal lives. It puts everything on a more personal level. When I see things like that I feel like I know that person more and then really appreciate any tutorials/projects more! Love your blog!!

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  7. This is a great post (as usual) and I adore the photo. You are both so cute!

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  8. Gorgeous picture of you & your little man! I love your random thoughts. Reading your blog makes me happy, just sayin'. :)

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  9. I love that you keep it real! My life is far from perfect and it makes me feel better knowing others feel the same way. I love reading your blog and hope to someday have a huge fan base as well!

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  10. that picture is AMAZING!! stupid question but why are the pumpkins lined up like that? is that how you go and pick out your pumpkins? sounds stupid, but i have never seen something like that. you know us folk up here in the north, we dont get out much:) i love these posts.

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  11. Nice Cowl! ;)
    I like your attitude on blogging.
    I feel discluded from blogs with bright big families, because I simply dont have any children.
    But I wanted to say that life is about how we handle the tough stuff, right? thats how you judge someone's character. Life is hard more often than its easy. We're so quick to want to paint everything white for everyone else. But that builds false relationships and impossible expectations. The beauty is in the intimacy of your family, and working at it everyday. Not how well you can shine them up for photos. My boyfriend gets so incredibly turned off with polished shiney lives. ew ew ew. We have love that I hope other people have found. Why not radiate that, to these women reading our blogs? that the imperfections of your family are what make them so loveable. Good job Rachel. =)

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  12. I LOVED this blog ! I feel that you were completely honest....I hate reading blogs that they make it seem like they have the perfect life and make u question yours...I dont put on a show for the blogger world...im just me. = )

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  13. I love this post. And I love people who are honest and down to earth, even about the crappy things in their lives. I agree that i sometimes find myself feeling alone in the bloggy world, and its nice to know that I am not. I really appreciate people who write about their person "random crap".

    Thanks for being down to earth and honest. And for sharing. :)

    <3 Jenn
    jenn-mcclure.blogspot.com

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  14. What? I just looked at the cutest picture of you and your child. The rest was just gibberish.

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  15. Cheers to you for having the balls to show the good and the bad! No one's perfect and anyone who pretends they are is just a phony!

    love your blog!!

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  16. Gosh Rachel..I could not say it better. I have almost deleted my blog more than once. I have started only putting on my craft items..I dont say much anymore..Dont visit and have deleted quite a few blogs...Thanks for sharing.

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  17. I've always wandered if bloggers homes were always perfect. Last night I was using a lint roller on our trick or treaters to remove the dog hair from their costumes. Our dogs loved them and the little goblins loved on them in return. I'm sure their parents were disgusted about the dog hair. But, that's par for the course around our home even though I run the dust mop everyday.

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  18. I think it is just hard to expose ourselves online, well maybe more for some people than others, we all know the TMI people! I love doing Pretty, Happy, Funny, Real posts every week, because it helps put perspective on the week, reminds me to be optimistic, and exposes some imperfections and quickness in a very liveable way.

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  19. I think it is just hard to expose ourselves online, well maybe more for some people than others, we all know the TMI people! I love doing Pretty, Happy, Funny, Real posts every week, because it helps put perspective on the week, reminds me to be optimistic, and exposes some imperfections and quickness in a very liveable way.

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  20. I love how you keep it real. I strive to do the same. Keep at it, sista!

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  21. Seriously, I laughed out loud about the red vines and the grocery store belly tickling. You're so darn cute and thank heaven not perfect! We can have a not perfect party together (I don't even blog, tweet, or pinterest, that's how not cool I am!)

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  22. I like random crap because it makes me know I'm not the only random thinker out there :).

    I found your site from pinterest (sugar scrub)!

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  23. I think it's a fine between feeling lonely behind your computer, and then pushing that loneliness out into the blog world - I had another rant, and now I think maybe it was a bit much - too debbie downer in a way. Maybe that's why we all try so hard to be bubbly happy, even when we aren't. We'd all love the support, but we also don't want to drag others into our dark hidey holes. You do a great job of sharing, yet keeping it upbeat! It's something I continue to be inspired by.

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